When you first met, he couldn’t take his hands off you. But lately, he’s been a little distant in the boudoir. Or maybe you’re feeling frisky and he simply seems distracted. What to do?
Let’s face it. Getting a man in the mood isn’t usually a serious challenge. By their own admission, most guys are more than happy to engage in acts of intimacy at the drop of a dime. But we all – men and women, alike – have those days when we could use a little help in the romance department. And, besides, most guys are seriously turned on when their partner takes the lead.
Below, are my well-researched, highly effective intimacy tips. They incorporate all of the senses and are guaranteed to put the zing back into your sex life. And at the very least, you’ll have a lot of fun trying them out together! (OK, I tried some of these out on my boyfriend and they worked, so I thought I’d share.)
1. Bubble, bubble, no toil or trouble.
Prepare a candlelit, vanilla-scented, bubble bath. According to neurologist Alan Hirsch, of the Smell and Taste Treatment and Research Foundation in Chicago, vanilla is the aroma that arouses men most. Add a few more key ingredients to your sensual bath potion, such as you waiting for him in the tub with two glasses of wine, and voila! Let the games begin.
2. See me, feel me, touch me.
Give your guy a sensual massage, and incorporate some items with diverse textures, such as a silk scarf, a feather. or a scratchy wool sweater. Be creative, but be sure to choose things that will feel different on his skin. Light a scented cinnamon candle (cinnamon is a known aphrodisiac for men), and choose a massage oil with aphrodisiac properties, such as lavender or frankincense. And don’t forget the blindfold – for him.
3. Let me whisper in your ear.
In your sexiest voice, leave a message on his voice mail about what it is that draws you to him and why you can’t wait to see him later – the breathier the better.
4. Look into my eyes.
Staring contests are a childhood staple, but this is one kids’ game worth revisiting as adults. Staring directly into the eyes of your lover without breaking your gaze can be a powerful tool for arousal, and it can also enhance intimacy during lovemaking.
